Never judge a book by its cover. You just never know….
Here is a short hypothetical story for you and I want you as the reader to try and put yourself in this situation and try to think about what you would do. You’re seriously involved in a relationship and that person has a child, in whose welfare you become emotionally invested. This is a given whenever a child is involved, because unless you are heartless, a bond forms. So, let’s fast forward and get past all the intricacies. So, now you are a step parent; however, the child lives with the primary guardian and only has visitation rights, which exist only because you now have come into the picture and created a stable environment. So, you transfer your employment and move completely across the country, so your spouse can be closer to the child, who is now as well your responsibility.
Let’s say you are around 21 to 23 years old and your spouse is around 7 to 8 years older….You have a job, a house, a pet or two, a spouse, and a step child. The bills pile up, so you go out and get two more jobs. That’s a lot of responsibility. Now, let’s add another factor to this scenario. You are using public transportation because you cannot afford a car, thus adding 2 to 3 extra hours for a one way trip to your fist job, your primary job. 7 days a week. Now, if you miss that bus, you now have to walk for miles until you reach another bus stop. There are only 24hours in day. Time is against you to the point that you are actually sleeping at your job in-between shifts and on breaks before you go to your next job. It’s just another day for you while your spouse is at home doing whatever. You don’t know, because you are maybe home for 2 hours out of 24, 48, 72, etc. You never know, because you have to do what you have to do. You just shut your brain down and do it.
Now throw in another factor; you do not have a high school diploma, so finding a well-paying job is difficult. Not to go too off topic: As a result, you may work harder than individuals your age or younger who have college degrees or/and a strong family backing. Many recent college graduates may not necessarily have experienced your experiences, those often-humbling situations. Don’t expect them to relate to your situation.
So, let’s get back on topic. Remember that this scenario happens and it is a reality for some. Your spouse did the following: slept with multiple individuals, became a nude dancer, started smoking meth, free basing and snorting coke, doing ecstasy, nonstop drinking, bringing dealers to the house, (while the child was there), collecting and selling urine to pass mandated court drug testing, prostitution, and involvement in the porn industry. That is the gist of it neatly packaged and tied with a bow. So, what would you do in this situation?
See you in the next post!