What do you say to the individual who has no purpose, or seeks to make the lives of others miserable due to a void in her or his own life? Do you entertain the negativity, lies, and games? What do you say to the person who is always asking whether you are okay, and the question is not motivated by actual concern, but rather, yet another manipulative attempt to control? In many cases, said individual feels an emptiness that has to be filled at all costs, even at the cost of ever finding true happiness. Perhaps the individual turns to plastic surgery, or self-mutilation, or endures physical abuse, etc. Attempting to determine “why” said individual acts in a particular way is often a never-ending process. Why doesn’t he or she love me? I try and try and just continue to cry.
The reality for many is heart wrenching, particularly when the outcomes are less than for what one would hope in the wake of such despair. That emptiness is powerful and for many there is a never ending bottom to that hole of emptiness trying to be filled. Many individuals have reached and touched that bottom before, but the reality most times is a harsh reminder that we each have a darkness that has to be faced. Some run away, and quickly, while others grab that darkness by the throat and tear the light out of it.