I read something that made my ribs hurt so much from laughing I thought I needed the EMS. I love reading and learning, but if I can laugh each day as I did today then that makes it all worthwhile. As always, I’ll use my experiences for this post. I drive a decent vehicle, and the 6 years of payments made me appreciate and value my vehicle even more. As a result, I take care of it and maintain it religiously.
When other individuals see my vehicle they assume I have money and/or may be well off; more than once I have witnessed a classic case of making assumptions based on the vehicle I drive. For me, talk is talk and work is work. Sure we can each adjust our spending habits to acquire things or go on adventurous outings, but the real adventure is understanding yourself, your heart, and your partner – if, I cannot stress this one enough IF, you are lucky enough have a partner who will be by your side on this journey. Think about that!
Similarly, one does not need a college degree to understand bigotry, jealously, resentment, evil, harassment, or how the world works. Those fancy words will do nothing for you if you piss off the wrong person. Call me old fashioned, but, unless I am mistaken, one does not bring his or her financial spreadsheet to the grave, or piles of cash to spend while interred.
To use the previous point regarding making assumptions, how many of you have looked at someone’s vehicle and assumed well, they have a lot of money if they are driving that? This also includes boats, houses, clothes, owning a business, and/ or jewelry. People buy things or spend money they do not have to evoke the illusion that they are doing great, when in reality that vehicle is being hidden in a garage at night, so it’s not reprocessed in the early morning. That house and or boat is about to go into foreclosure and well the clothes, those multi thousand dollar suits, shoes, and or clothes have already lost their value. That business is not really yours, but a contract from another to which or whom you are beholden. Do you actually think because that ring, necklace, bracelet, or watch is worth thousands, if not millions of dollars, you may sell it for the same value?
So, stereotyping…Some readers might argue the previous points are full of stereotypes. However, I call it common sense not to spend money you do not have to look good for people who do not pay your bills. That brings me to the often-used sayings, “dress for the part” or “dress for success”. I can look just as good as the next person wearing my khaki pants or blue jeans that cost $30 to $60 versus those $2000 pairs.
So, let’s talk about the red carpet…. Do you think the celebrities and individuals walking the “red carpet” always own those clothes? Some do, but most are on loan, or more appropriately, said individual is a walking advertisement, promoting the top brands of pretty much anything – gowns, shoes, watches, necklaces, cuff links, etc.. After all, these individuals are paid to look good and feel good. It’s a win-win for the celebrity and the brand(s). So, to bring this back to the materialism emphasis, there are multiple moving parts in a red carpet event. The gears include photographers, security, police, caterers, news media, and all the other little details that go into creating the spinning wheel – the public façade of materialism and consumerism. Societal expectations – i.e., celebrities wearing (typically) expensive clothing, and adoring fans clamoring behind barricades for a glimpse of their favorite actor or musician – are nowhere more evident than a red carpet event.
That doesn’t mean you still cannot be yourself and have fun while fitting the part or whatever gear in the engine you might be. You might be the oil or the bolt that holds the oil pan in place. Regardless of the engine part that corresponds best to each of us, we each have a responsibility to keep the engine running. If society breaks down, then chaos will soon follow. It is rare to find individuals who are willing to talk about the real stuff, and avoid the surface, basic chit chat, the type of conversation which does not require deep thought. I, however, prefer conversation which encourages me to think; after all, this is the reason why philosophers, scientists, researchers, etc. debate the human condition.