Chasing a Dream: One Wave at a Time

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Clarification: My goal is to race from VA to NJ on a Waverunner (jetski) to raise awareness and money for a anti-bullying campaign.

Chasing a Dream: One Wave at a Time

I am fortunate to have enjoyed observing the advancements in personal water crafts over the past three decades; my fascination with jet skis began at the age of fifteen, leading to a role as a jet ski instructor in New Jersey in my late teens and early twenties. Growing up in a water-loving family created a lifelong love of the water, and jet skis served a dual purpose: fueling my teenage interest in speed, to be perfectly frank, and providing an opportunity to travel from Points A to B with the benefit of observing nature along the way. In recent years, I have searched for ways to share this enthusiasm with others, and more importantly, combine that love of jet skis and the water with a philanthropic component. My career has predominantly involved the security sector, which has afforded me the opportunity to assist others on multiple occasions, and made me increasingly aware of the necessity of support for those in need. Philanthropic campaigns to assist at-risk youth and “stomp out” bullying have always drawn my support, and social responsibility themes, particularly in terms of respecting human rights, are appealing to me.

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It has been stated, “No one person can change the world, but we can each do our part.”

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I live in Virginia Beach, Virginia. I began the process of planning this endeavor two decades ago, but when life became very busy at the turn of the century, I put this goal on hold, hoping to reach a point in life where I could resume a dream of combining my passion for jet skis and philanthropic causes. I do not want to regret anything in life, as that is not how I want to leave this planet, nor do I want to be false when telling others to go for their dreams when I have not finished fulfilling mine.

I want my son to look at his dad and say, feel, and/or think I am proud or tell his friends, “That’s my dad!”. I never want him to feel ashamed or bullied for fighting for a positive cause in which he believes. I would like for my son to know that he can overcome and reach his star in the sky regardless of obstacles in his path.

I genuinely believe in people’s ability to change the world into something better. I believe each one of us has the ability to create a canvas unique to each of us to share with the world and guide someone who has yet to find their unique way of letting their canvas to be expressed.

Too many young adults leave our planet before they even start living; many never have the opportunity to attain their goals and dreams. Bullying needs to stop across the board and our youth’s self-esteem needs to grow. If just one thing can spark a child’s dream, then why not give them something for which to strive other than the correctional facility or worse, a life ended before even starting?

So, what is this dream that I intend to fulfill? My goal is to navigate a personal water craft (jet ski) from Virginia Beach to Brick, New Jersey to show to our youth that no matter how much someone or something holds one back, or how degraded one feels, that it is possible to leave the darkness behind. It is possible to stand up for themselves, and there are people on this planet who do understand, and want them to pursue their goals, reach for the stars, and persevere no matter how many times they are knocked down.

So, what is the purpose of this funding campaign? Funds received will go towards the jet ski trip from Virginia Beach to Brick, NJ. During this campaign, I will also be actively seeking support from anti-bullying organizations as I attempt to fulfill my dream, and raise funds for anti-bullying efforts in the process. Thank you for the support and donations towards not only fulfilling my dream, but supporting a vital cause.

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The breakdown of costs will be going towards the following:

·         A large percentage is going to the anti-bullying campaign and stomp out bullying initiative $5000.00+

·         Technical Advisors:  i.e. mechanics, ”Paid Licensed Captains” stationed vessels  along the route for refuel, safety checkpoints, support, and EMT’s, possible medical doctor  $3000.00+

·         Partial amount will go towards the Personal Water Craft for this undertaking for safety reasons.

·         Go-Pro cameras for documenting the trip $500+

·         Music and video support- media consultant for website, maintaining, creating, editing, and producing multiple short clip videos, picture collages, a documentary video, YouTube Channel, and publications related to this campaign.  3000.00+

·         Personal safety equipment that is not already available: i.e.- Emergency locator, helmet, more flares, smoke,  extra VHF long range two way radio $1500.00+

·         Everyone who contributes towards this endeavor will receive something regardless of how small or large of a donation. $2000.00+ in give a ways.

·         Your names, organizations, or businesses will be added to the overall documentary: If permission is granted.

·         All donors will be mentioned if permission is granted

·         Paper supplies

·         Ink

·         Card Stock

·         Envelopes

·         Thank You Cards for everyone who is involved

https://www.gofundme.com/chasing-a-dream-one-wave-at-time

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Clarification: My goal is to race from VA to NJ on a Waverunner (jetski) to raise awareness and money for a anti-bullying campaign.

Attitude

new-jersey-december-2016-219triptripHello everyone, and welcome to another post.  Before zipping along, I wanted to share an observation which I recently discovered from John C. Maxwell, “People may hear your words, but they feel your attitude”.  Very true.  Attitude can often be the difference between life and death; think about those who climb or have climbed Mount Everest.  Attitude may very well be the difference between life and death.  Or, what about working on home repairs, such as repairing a roof, or even climbing a tree – whether as part of one’s job or just for fun; attitude can make all the difference.  A negative attitude can make that “honey do list” never-ending, or climbing that tree could suddenly become hazardous without the right attitude.  If you are surrounded by negative influences, then the ordinary becomes bitter.  One of my favorite mantras now is about cutting lose the chain of negativity (from the anchor), and letting that anchor sink to the bottom of the ocean.

To continue these points regarding attitude, an old favorite from Zig Ziglar is, “Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude”.  Also true.  If one is surrounded by negativity, however, this may be difficult to fulfill.  It is important to separate yourself from negativity, whether it is individuals or a company, before you lose yourself to entrenched negative thinking or worse, a negative environment in which you cannot grow. I call this the one stop shop of death to your individuality or potential future possibilities for growth.

15965960_10211809674897763_2715644845445657381_n15977493_10211809673097718_4611004595877573695_nIt seems unrealistic to encourage everyone to try to have a positive attitude and inspire and foster others to live life with some gusto, adventure, or even with their own originality, but is it?  Is it unrealistic to try to encourage others to refrain from negative thinking? Social media platforms come to mind.  How many times has a post or action on social media infuriated or upset you?  Let’s take Instagram for example; sometimes scrolling through individual feeds can spark (positive) ideas and conversations, and result in excellent contacts, but on other occasions, it and other social media platforms seem to do nothing but bring down one’s mood.  Not every social media account is positive – or even realistic, but some are worth reviewing, particularly if we take a minute to ponder the message or intent of the account (particularly business-related or entrepreneurial feeds).  If we have an open mind instead of a closed one, what opportunities do you think could result?

This brings me to the concept of the phrase, “one-man army”; in many ways, while this has been used in a negative manner, I consider it an immense compliment. I am one person just doing my own thing trying to be happy, and if working 10x harder than the person next to me is negative (i.e., comments such as “you’re working too hard”), then I suppose that is a matter of opinion.   I always wonder why individuals opt to jab, rather than encouraging others to persevere.  Is it just easier to be negative?  I’m human so, yes, sometimes, when I let down my guard, comments such as these bother me, and are just another irritant like getting tazed or OC’ed.  However, once I refocus, I can “embrace” the constructive criticism.  Here is just a thought to consider next time anyone is on the verge of picking on someone with malevolent (or even ill-humored) intent. We are all created equal, but we do not all share the same equal mindset of what real work entails.

When it comes to labor, I have put in my fair share of time, and I truly do understand intense manual labor. I cannot say this for everyone, nor would I even speak for another in this regard.  However, throughout my life, I have encountered a lot of Individuals who do not comprehend real pain or work. They can say it all they want, but until they actually feel it, then those words are hollow and mean nothing more than self-aggrandizement. I’m getting older, so I do feel it more, but I still know my limitations and capabilities. So, please, I want to hear you tell me “one-man army” or “you don’t get it”; all these comments do is motivate me. As I have said before, I am only one man trying my best. I don’t have a team to help me to do the little jobs, so if this “one man army” is upsetting your company’s status quo, and you have a TEAM of people, some of whom were hired to create original content, and yet, your team members continue to utilize the work of other individuals and claim it as their own, then I would encourage such companies to reevaluate the hiring process, and seek individuals who believe in original thought.

It’s all about mindset and how you look at the LONG RUN. I’m not saying owners of any company will not make mistakes in terms of placing trust in employees to be honest, particularly in terms of pesky components such as plagiarism, but know when the air is ripe at least.  I’m not here for peanuts and popcorn to watch a movie. I am the one creating the movie.  So, from the “one-man army” and until the next post, enjoy the start of the year and as always thank you for reading. My wife is laughing at me for this one, but that is just fine with me, because she is my team.

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See you in the next post.

 

The pondering question:

new-jersey-december-2016-061tripnew-jersey-december-2016-285tripWhat keeps me going? What does someone say to another individual or a large audience if you are ever in a position to be sitting or standing on a stage in front of hundreds of people? What about a classroom? Maybe it’s a complete stranger.  What keeps anybody going in life?  Bottom line.  I only have one question for you to ponder down the road, when you are going through something or maybe when you have reached a point in life where you have no idea or clue what to do, when you have nowhere to run or hide, and you are forced to face this one question. Do you want to live or die?

This is a direct and clear cut question we should all ask ourselves. The normal reflex would be to say “Yes, I want to live,” partly due to the stigma of saying “no”.  In other words, would an individual automatically be labelled as someone in need of help?  What do we do? Is that person depressed? Suicidal?  Dangerous? Perhaps that person is having a bad day.  We automatically reach a hypothesis before learning the truth.

At one point or another in your life you are going to be where no one can relate to you or vice versa and that feeling of alienation will overwhelm anyone. It doesn’t matter where you are or who surrounds you, this will happen regardless of demographics.  That’s the true refection in the mirror…There comes a pivotal point in which you must decide whether you will fight, push on, face it all, or step back into the cave where the reflecting shadows can continue portraying what you want to see or feel, so you don’t confront your demons?  I think of Plato’s Allegory here – i.e., the point where you must have the courage to face yourself.  I’m not here to preach to you, but I do know one day your life will come to a complete halt.  You will look at everything and everyone in your life and wonder what the hell am I seeing, as if for the first time? Why have I not seen this before? Why have I not realized this before? And SWOOSH, that moment is gone just like that. Though that moment has come and gone the question is what will you do next with that humbling insight? The wrist watch arms are spinning and the question still remains for you to answer.

Do you want to live or die? Personally, I want to live. That is what keeps me going. LIFE!  I want to be happy. See my wife and son smile and learn from one another. I want to see friends and loved ones enjoying life.new-jersey-december-2016-434tripI want to be free. I want see our youth stay the hell out of JAIL! I want to see our youth engaged in positive activities without the fear of harassment. (Note to readers:  This will be the intro into a separate post on this topic “Youth and jail”.) Would you not rather see young adults fishing, kayaking, surfing, jet skiing, and other recreational activities rather than killing or fighting you, your neighbors, friends, teachers, authority figures, and most importantly each other over ridiculous nonsense, because they tried abiding by certain expectations only to have them thrown in their faces. Let’s consider the following hypothetical scenario.  A young adult is legally fishing somewhere, and another individual had a problem with this person fishing in that location, and as a result, decided to be a bully, perhaps because he or she would like to be doing what the young adult was doing.  However, this individual opted to be the instigator instead of the influencer.  (Notice the emphasis on choice!  Bullying is a conscious action on the part of the bully.)  We want the youth to abide the rules, but when it is do as we say, but not as we do, then we have a conflict of interest do we not?

I wonder if this same individual ever stopped to realize by that simple action of confrontation instead of positive reinforcement caused a ripple effect to the point that the young adult said to himself or herself, I am not hurting anyone. I am alone fishing and minding my own business and I get harassed for fishing. I get bullied for following the rules. I get in trouble for doing the right thing instead of doing harmful activities. Why bother? I give up.  I guess killing and fighting each other is better for society and my future, so I guess I will just do that instead of fishing.  See where I am going here, folks?  If an individual acts constructively, instead of putting themselves in a less-than-positive role, one which might lead to the corrections system, that is a no brainer. (This will be in another post.)

So, what keeps me going? I want to live. I want to make a difference even if it is just as simple as writing, taking pictures, or blabbing away on my blog.

Here is another question for you. What do you have to lose by trying to better yourself?

Well, to me that moment comes with a price.

That price is your ego. That price is your humility. That price is your pain. That price is your time.

That price is getting your heart handed to you wrapped in a pretty bow over and over and over and over.

That price is facing those demons that keep you from facing that mirror.

That price is your family. That price is your life.

How badly do you want to go forward in life?

I can sit here and break down every single price tag I just put on every one of those stated.

Crying because you are angry or upset, yelling at the wall or the sky, screaming at the top of your lungs to release something, beating the hell out of a kick bag, running, jogging, swimming, and the countless other positive activities that empower one to strive for a better tomorrow are all normal. Every one of these causes a reaction to that could benefit one’s life in a positive manner.

That’s a part of life. Get over it. Deal with it. Reflect upon that image in the mirror. Try looking at yourself beyond the reflection in the mirror.

So, when someone asks me what keeps me going, what would you like to hear? The truth or some bullshit story to appease you at that moment? Fight. Push. Strive. Inspire. Encourage. Talk. Put words into action.

Don’t try to push shit that you yourself are not representing. So, what keeps me going? I want to live to continue learning.

See you in the next post.

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Google Vortex

I sit here staring at dual computer screens. One screen has Google staring at me and the other is no other than the screen reflecting the words I am typing. My son sleeps soundly behind me in his little Fisher Price Rock & Play. Before we get into the post at hand, let that last phrase roll off your tongue a few times. Rock and play. Rock and play. I look at my son, now nearly 4 months old, and he is sound asleep. I am typing away and he is just out cold in infant land dreaming away of something happy I hope.  The Rock and Play is a phenomenal concept, because to me it is an adult sized hammock with frames. I want to wake up my son and tell him he needs to go to his crib, so I can lie back and relax in this thing.

Ok. Let’s turn our attention to the Google screen. It’s just staring at me and frankly sometimes I get tired of just wanting to research information, because there are so many topics from which to choose.  Information at our finger tips….Where do I start?  Information at the touch of your fingertips is an awe-inspiring concept; gone are the days of library card catalogs. At least for this particular post, because unbelievable materials can be found at the tips of those cards and who doesn’t enjoy the good old (DDC) So, Google:  I can take a chance and double click “I’m feeling lucky,” if I choose.  In fact let’s do that and see where it leads us.  What appears is as follows (and this pasted directly from the Google search):

“January 11, 2012

Nicolas Steno’s 374th Birthday

Known as the father of stratigraphy and geology, Nicholas Steno worked to understand history by what he could find in the ground. Rather than simply write books about his findings, Steno opted to do his own hands-on research. As an innovative thinker, he disagreed with his contemporaries in thinking that shark-tooth-shaped objects found imbedded in rocks “fell from the sky.” Instead, Steno argued that these formations were fossils. His dedication to analysis, critical thinking, and creative thinking make him a great subject for a Google doodle!

Considering Steno’s contributions to stratigraphy and geology, I wanted to honor his birthday with a unique take on his work. I knew that the colorful and geeky aesthetic of stratigraphy was the right direction for the doodle, but the team and I weren’t sure how to apply it. Should we set the doodle in the middle of the country? Should we relate it to Google culture? Should I just make things up? Below are the exploration sketches. “

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Now, that was a gem of a find.  That nugget left me curious, so I chose to research further on Nicolas Steno. I wanted to see what information I could find in three minutes; yet, 49 minutes pass, and I am still reading about this fascinating man.  I would have continued my research; however, my son woke up screaming.  The term “bloody hell” is an overture for my son cried so loud that the blood ran out of hell; Hell’s CEO was like, “God, what happened?  Why have you forsaken me?” After feeding my son, he started to fall back to sleep, leading me to return to do some additional research.  That’s reality; my son is now falling back to sleep in my wife’s arms.  So, I decide to browse Stanford’s research archives, leading me right back to where I started, another recap of a past blog post. The BRAIN. This reminds me of what I read regarding Steno, and his 1669 point, “The brain, the masterpiece of creation, is almost unknown to us.”  Today, 347 years later in 2016, the brain is still a mystery, in many ways. That is beyond fascinating because that means there are endless possibilities for future breakthroughs.

So, to return to our focus on Google, I am thankful for our tech advancements, as this provided the muse and the means to locate a topic.  While I am on the topic of technological advances, how many of my fellow readers know what Nanites are? Now this is a topic about which I could write multiple posts. Nanorobotics, Nanomachines, and Nanomites, oh my. Nanotechnology is a fascinating topic, one in which that which you imagine can become a reality.

So, until the next post I will keep researching topics or just free write as I normally do, as this helps me to feel good about myself. Let’s face it folks, if we do not enjoy what we are doing or do what makes us happy, then what is the purpose of humanity? We have 80 to 85 years to live and humanity would be resplendently boring if there were no excitement.

See you in the next post.

Mirrors Reflections:

It’s easy to look at someone else and compare your life with theirs, but that’s not your life, so why do we do this? Why do we compare ourselves with others?  I look around and see thousands of faces. I look into their eyes and I see anger, passion, ambition, admiration, fear, concern, confusion, love, curiosity, among others, as if a mirror is reflecting everything I myself have endured and experienced, and continue to pull back the curtain of life’s everlasting questions of what are we on this planet to do.

Do we speak of these things or do we just brush these realities under the carpet, so no one can see our true nature? Should I use fancy or brusque words to cause a ripple in the pond that may or may not rock the boat?  I am human as are we all. I know of pain, love, etc. – just as you. So why do people continue to hide from themselves?

Why do we hide from the reflection in the mirror?

What makes one human being better than another?

If you take away everything and stand as equals, what is left?

So, I sit here and I type and knowing all too well many individuals DO NOT GIVE A FUCK! Oops, taboo broken. Ripple in the pond rocking the boat. Have you ever considered the fact that a boat is meant to be rocked?  I curse a lot, so what! Oh My God! I have a mouth and an attitude problem.

I can use whatever words I choose, from the sophisticated to the repulsive.  Here is what I have learned over the years, although sometimes I wonder.  You can curb your language, so you don’t come across as a complete asshole, but the truth is I am (or at least can be) an asshole.  What did I just say? You don’t live 20, 30, 40+ years without learning the true nature of human beings and their capabilities. Don’t lie to yourself if you think someone will always be nice to you. That is not reality.

This is reality:

If you let someone continue to hurt you, they will.

If you let someone continue to manipulate you, they will.

Now, why did I say I was an asshole (or at least can be)?

I try to stand up for myself (AS YOU ALL SHOULD)  and sometimes the ones I stand up to have the power to manipulate those around them, or maybe someone will try intimidation tactics, or speak ill of me, or maybe someone is trying or just tried to pick a fight with me for some convoluted reason, but the fact remains that when I do stand up for myself, people take that as a sign of disrespect, which to me is ass backwards.  If someone is trying to tarnish your name/reputation, what do you do? If someone is trying to break your spirit, what do you do? If someone is trying to force you out of place of employment, business, or anywhere you want to enjoy your time or earn money, what do you do? What do you do when you will not submit to other’s perspectives?  You stand up for yourself.  So, if that makes me an asshole in your eyes, because I speak my mind, then I guess I’m an asshole.  I’m not here to placate others.  That crap was grade school antics, which by the way are alive and well in some of the adult behavior I witness. I want to see people succeed and not be pushed down. Don’t get me wrong, I act like a child myself, because I am the parent of an infant and often make funny faces and speak “baby talk” in my child’s presence.

The bottom line:  If you try to break a person who has already been broken you will lose every time!

Be yourself.

Fight for your passions.

Stand up for your ideologies.

See you in the next post.

Sunshine Blogger Award

Sunshine Blogger Award

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Thank you to for nominating me. Their blog /360exposure EXPLORE – LIFESTYLE – TRAVEL.  It was a tremendous surprise to be nominated for this award, I certainly had fun answering the questions. I look forward to reading the responses to our questions posed to our nominees.

Rules of the Sunshine Blogger Award:

  • Thank the person who nominated you and link back to their blog.
  • Answer the eleven questions set by the person who nominated you.
  • Nominate eleven other blogs and give them eleven questions to answer.
  • List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo in your post.

Our answers to  questions:

What made you start blogging?  After years of not excelling in school, I realized I had a passion for writing, and was good at it (with a little bit of assistance from my wife in terms of grammar ) ;).  Writing and sharing my thoughts helps to release years of locked-away pain.

If money was no object, what would you do?  If only this were the case, but my “flight of fancy” would be to purchase a charter boat, and join my father in his charter fishing business.  On a charitable note, one day, I would like to purchase 1,000 kites and share them with one or more youth centers; this would be one way to encourage our youth to appreciate the outdoors and have fun.

What do you prefer Marine or Terrestrial environments?  Marine environments

If you were a kid and you knew then what you know now. Would you have chosen a different profession and what would it be?  That’s a hard question to answer because I wouldn’t be where I am today if not for my past, but I would have loved to have worked in the field of cyber-security, joined a special forces unit, or pursued medical school with an emphasis on the use of nanotechnology in medical research.

Do you prefer sweet or savory? Savory

If you could save one animal on the planet which animal would it be? The Panther

Favourite music genre and/or band? 80s rock

If you could earn a salary from blogging, would you do it?   Without hesitation.

What are your views and thoughts on global population numbers?  The exponential increase in the global population does create concern, particularly in reference to the possibility (and likelihood) of further reduction or waste of natural resources.

Where do you live now? If you had to move to a foreign country where would you go to? I live in the US, but if we had to move, it would be England, Ireland, or The Yukon

When was the last time you spent the entire day without your cellphone and/or iPad? Quite a while.

Our blog nominations:

nature has no boss

The darkest fairytale

keithgarrettpoetry

STORYTELLER

MIRACLES EACH DAY

Enchanted Forests

Eyes + Words

Vonj Productions

Cradle of Joy

The Evolutionary Mind

Be Like Water

Questions to our nominees:

What made you start blogging?

What are your views and thoughts on global population numbers?

What was the last book you read?

Why did you select this book?

Do you think the internet makes the world a smaller place or larger?

Do you think social media provides a positive environment for users/ why or why not?

Do you think human beings at their core are really good?

What’s your favorite color?

What is your favorite outdoor activity?

What is the best piece of advice you ever received?

What is your favorite season of the year?

Once again Thank you to for nominating me. Check out their blog /360exposure  

See you in the next post.

Pokemon Go

Genius or distraction? Well, whichever it is to you it is definitely a comedy show; there is nothing like watching the masses chasing invisible creatures on their phones. I have watched some funny scenarios unfold.  Watching people walk in circles chasing this hovering object that does not exist, even though they swear it does, is nothing short of hilarious.  But, this game can be dangerous, too, as the deaths in recent months indicate.   That car coming towards you as you search for that bouncing ball, or the train or the bus barreling towards you.  Oops, you were just woken up for that split second before your eyes went black. But hey that bobbing object is still smiling on your phone. Anyway at least it will make it easier for the criminal to be caught from that GPS location.  Forewarning to those on the run from the law….

Well, at least finally people are getting off the couches; maybe the obesity stats will drop. Maybe people will be more worried about that bouncing ball, rather than trying to kill, rob, rape, or other evil shit, and instead, head out on expeditions looking for a make-believe animated creature.

Pokemon Go, thank you for the endless stories and laughter that I have, and will continue to, gain from you.

See you in the next post!